And how I'd rather be whole, than good
Beautifully written. Life is indeed for living, but in order to live, we must also acknowledge that there is always something dying so that something else may live
Not only is your content profound but the continued conversations here in your comments are incredible. Thank you for this post and thank you to all of you commenting and sharing your own insights and wisdoms. I have never been this excited to read comments on any posts on any platforms. You are all my teachers. Looking forward to continuing to learn. 🍃
Memento Mori my friend. I found your posts a while ago and wanted to share it with my dil. She recently lost her father too young. I hesitated to send it but I think I will send this one. I’m a retired trauma nurse and have always thought about death a lot. Keep up the good fight but I know that death is not a bad thing, a transition perhaps. There are things worse than death, quite a few honestly. ♥️
Thank you for sharing this, so fantastic and fascinating as always x
Growing up, my fatherr used to have all these funny saying and witty comebacks. I remember when I wanted him to do something for me so badly (mostly buying me something or taking me somewhere) and I would whine 'but Dad, you haaaaave to!' And he would respond by saying 'the only thing I HAVE to do is stay Black and die'.
Even in jest, there was something so freeing about the truth in that that always stuck with me, and maybe opened up the early thoughts of death. And now, while I don't make that joke with my kids (because it's too close to home), I do allow them to witness and share my grief with each transition/passing while being light in reminding them that death is the only condition of life.
Memento Mori indeed
That fawn is the cutest, daintiest little eater: chew, chew, chew, swallow, yum, yum, more. 🤣
How did we lose our way with death? Maybe when we started shutting away the dying in hospitals and care homes and we didn't have to deal with it at home? I love that you are throwing back the curtain and opening the windows on such an important subject, Chloe - it needs some light and air.
This too shall pass and we won’t be here in this form anymore. Reflecting on it makes life richer.
So well written and so important a topic to be aware of and thinking about. I don't think I was ever in the "don't think about death" side, but over the last decade my mind has increasingly become accustomed to, accepted and thought a lot more on death.
Have you ever heard Sam Harris' thought on this? I think he did a whole podcast on death and how he thinks about it each and every day (in a good way). I can dig up the link if you haven't and you're interested.
Being whole. Now there's something worth aspiring to! One of the many beautiful filaments in this amazing substack is that in turning our attention towards death you simultaneously turn our attention towards life. In this particular essay, it's life as imagined in the fullness of Jung's rich formulation versus life offered to us by Madison Avenue and Hollywood as merely the place furthest away from and least similar to the End. Magnificent.
Chloe thank you so much for this beautiful rousing piece in defence of all of the things we’ve been told should be avoided, bypassed, pushed down and because of that, the associated feelings that come up like guilt and shame and exile. Like you, I finally realise I would much rather be whole than good. Learning to invite death into my everyday life has been life giving. It has awakened an aliveness and a capacity in me for holding life b all its multitudes. Much love xxx
Thank you for this framework. I’ve been grieving the loss of my father while simultaneously celebrating the birth of my first son and experiencing the closeness of life and death (rebirth) has convinced me that we truly cannot have one without the other. Both are potent portals of magic with gifts to share.
Making room for the sacredness of grief, loss, and the exhale is a practice I’m deepening within. I am grateful for others to share with on the journey! 🙏